Single or not, this is for you.

We can’t deny that everyone is (or has been) in love with the idea of being with someone who will make you feel special. I mean, who doesn’t want that? The influence by media and pop culture is undeniable.

The real question is: is it bad to feel that way? Is it bad to feel happy because of a special someone? OF COURSE NOT! But, just like all good things, there are some points you guys need to remember.

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Being attracted is a natural phenomenon, but attraction isn’t everything.

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We all know that nobody is perfect, but we often forget about that when it comes to our dreams (dream relationships, dream partner, dream life, etc). Well, news flash! Your desires can’t always be trusted. People will fail you. Circumstances will disappoint you.

But thank the Heavens, it isn’t the end of the world. I’m here to tell you that there’s no reason to fret. Here are two simple steps that can help you have healthy relationships in general!

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We often make a list of characteristics and traits we want our “dream guy” or “dream girl” to have. But have you ever thought about making a list for yourself? Have you ever asked yourself whether or not you’re qualified to be someone else’s dream boy or dream girl? The truth is, you haven’t. I don’t mean to say this to destroy your self-esteem, but simply to give us all (me included) a healthy dose of hard truth.

It is high time that we stop focusing on finding the dream guy/girl, and focus more on BEING that dream guy/girl. May this be an inspiration for us to stop being complacent and start being the best version of ourselves! We need to fix ourselves first before we dive into any commitment. Being single isn’t a curse, it’s a great blessing because it’s a time for you to grow.

Now you might say that it’s more fun to grow with someone by your side, and I would agree! Attend workshops, join inspirational gatherings, and make new friends! Embrace your singleness. Grow and strive to become that dream guy/girl! After all, being with someone in particular isn’t all about the happy moments. It comes with great responsibility and great expectations, more so if you want it to last a lifetime.
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You want a great relationship in the future? Be the best version of yourself first.

“So God created man in his [own] image,
in the image of God created he him; male and female he created them.”
Genesis 1:27

I want you guys to know that our Maker is THE BEST. We have the capacity to become the best version of ourselves because our Maker is by our side. Don’t wait for another heartbreak to improve yourself, improve yourselves now!

Do me a favor and repeat after me, “I have greatness inside of me!”  YOU HAVE SO MUCH GREATNESS INSIDE OF YOU – GO AHEAD AND LET IT SHINE!

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This is perhaps the most important step of all, so much so that if you don’t take this crucial step, you take the first step in ruining all of your relationships. This step may sound cliché, but it’s the most genuine step of all. Don’t you know that He holds everything in our lives? God Himself is love, what better method is there to enhance our love than drawing close to the source of all love?

If you can’t even have a decent relationship with God, how do you expect to handle earthly love? Let’s say that you find your ideal partner. Even then, I am 100% certain that you will need a whole lot of Jesus’ help the moment you enter a relationship.

“I think anybody who falls in love is a freak.
It’s a crazy thing to do. It’s kind of like a socially, acceptable insanity.”


Genesis 2:18 says: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” But He also said “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)

He wants the best relationship for you, the best partner for you, but you’ll need His help to make it work. We often hear couples saying “God is the center of our relationship.” The truth is, it’s easier said than done. That’s why it is imperative we always stay in-tune with God.

If you can’t put God in the center of your relationship while you’re single, do not expect that you can do it while you’re a relationship.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, stop looking for the one because you already have the One, the One who can give you everything, the One who will make you happy, the ultimate partner anyone can have: Jesus.

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My challenge for you is less about avoiding love and avoiding the possibility of being attracted to someone, but more about preparing for that moment by fixing our relationship with the One who holds everything.

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  • Be the best version of yourself.

  • Deepen your relationship with God first. (Set a time for prayer, devotional, worship or quiet time)

  • Re-inspire yourself as much as you can.

Even if you have someone special right now, anything can happen, things can change – so why not take the sure steps to a healthy relationship?

Is there anything you would like to add to these steps?
Do you have other useful insights for us? Share away!

 Happy Valentine’s Day!

  1. “If you can’t put God in the center of your relationship while you’re single, do not expect that you can do it while you’re a relationship.”
    Amen! God is the God of relationships.

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